Are we on the rebound?

Dear Gabriel
My partner and I met straight out of other relationships. We get on really well and think we’ve fallen in love.

The only trouble is that we spend an awful lot of time talking about our past relationships. We worry that that means we’re in a rebound relationship. What do you think?
Sheldon

Dear Sheldon
I think you are on the rebound – and if you’re worrying about it that means it’s probably true. The fact that you’re talking about it is a good sign though, because at least you’re aware.

But awareness is not enough – you’ve got to work at building this relationship, giving it its own identity and freeing it from the baggage (whether battered or buffed) of the past.

There are too many people in bed with you and it’s getting crowded, unless that’s your thing! If possible, see a couple counsellor (or even go to someone separately) to tie up the loose ends of the previous relationships (as much as this is possible of course), take from them what was good and useful, jettison the bad and honour what you have now. Good luck!