The men I meet are so boring and unadventurous

Dear Gabriel
I am 60 and I’m an artist. The problem is that I’d like a relationship but there seem to be precious few opportunities. I’m not desperate, I enjoy
being by myself. But I’m open to the idea. But the only men I meet are, by and large, so boring, set in their ways, complacent and unadventurous that
I’ve started to think I’ll spend the rest of my life on my own. That’s okay isn’t it?
Anthea

Dear Anthea
Yes!

I was tempted to leave it at that. But I think I’ll elaborate. Yes it is okay because I believe that when a man sees you as available but not desperate he will be attracted to you (of course I exclude here the men who are drawn to attached women because they like the challenge or the men who want someone desperate because co-dependency is their thing).

I hear a lot of my single women friends of a certain age saying that if they come across as too self sufficient and independent it puts men off – and so they develop a whole set of tricks to appear a bit needy so that men can ride in on a white horse to snatch them up into the sunset.

While I understand this, it seems like so much hard work! Let’s be honest – you’re too old for these games and do you want a man like this? No, you want a creative, adventurous spirit like you.

He might be out there and, if you live your life to the full, it’s very likely you will meet him. And if not, well you tried and that’s more than a lot of us can say. I wish you a fabulous man who loves your independent soul.