True soulmate?

Dear Gabriel,

I’ve been happily married for 19 years. But throughout this period, have been exchanging letters with a man who is married to my best friend and whom I realise now is actually my true soulmate. We have never made love, but I feel that if I don’t act, I will never know true happiness. It seems like an impossible dilemma.

Joan

Dear Joan

Ah true happiness, that elusive beast. Ah a soul mate, that even more elusive beast. I’m sorry but I don’t believe in either. If you really have been happily married for 19 years, my dear you are the envy of many. I’d say, live in the present, stick with what works, cherish the connection you had with this other man, honour what they have and LET IT GO. Trust me, if you left your husband and took up with your friend’s husband, not only would there be four devastated people (children too?) but soon you would discover that he farts in bed and doesn’t do the shopping. It’s terrible, but we are all human. No, all relationships have to be worked at and considering your 19 year investment, I’d stick to the one you know.