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Luke's World
The Parenting Closet
There’s a new closet among gay men today – it’s the parenting closet.
Now I’ve had a few boyfriends in my time who’ve seemed like babies – they have had to be fed, washed, clothed and looked after in ways which are alarmingly similar to parenting an infant.
Of course, my wiser and more insightful friends have suggested that I have a daddy/son thing going on (and this isn’t about age, by the way. I’ve parented men very near my age) and I need to be the boss in my relationships.
I will concede this is a possibility – and that some kind of complementary thing is going on (I need a son, they need a dad).
The problem with these kinds of relationships, of course, is that sons grow up and the deal only works while each party sticks to his role. And the more I understand these dynamics, the less inclined I am to seek out men who need parenting (with, I will admit, a few relapses along the way – hey I’m human!).
No, what I’m really talking about is the desire to (a) adopt a baby or (b) to have one in the “natural” way with a willing, often lesbian, friend or (c) to find a surrogate mother who would be willing to lend her womb, as it were, to the man or men concerned.
The Greatest Contraceptive in the World
Forbidden Fumblings
What is it about coveting what we can’t have? Honestly, during prohibition in the US, alcohol sales increased.
Only when the government finally realised that all they were doing was making the mafia rich, did they repeal those laws. What if I told you that the government was about to outlaw jelly babies…you’re already thinking about jelly babies, aren’t you?
You’re wondering whether you should just pop down to the corner shop quickly and buy some, before this law gets passed and they are banned. In fact, maybe you should stock up on some of those bulk packs. Mmmm, jelly babies.
Characters on the Couch
Yin/yang?
Do you think men and women can rise above their socialisation, or do they inevitably act out what they learnt from family and community?
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