Columns: Tag – Luke
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Luke's World
Never tell the truth
One of the ten commandments of internet dating is THOU SHALT NOT TELL THE TRUTH. Of course, I only discovered this a few weeks into my first foray. I had decided upfront that I was going to be honest. Surely, I thought, if a connection starts off on a lie, where else can it go but downhill?
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Fooled by a floozy
The first time I went onto gaydar I got a flood of responses. Okay I made that up. A gentle surge would be more accurate. Flushed with slightly embarrassed pride, I spent a happy few hours sifting through my haul.
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Narcissus of the internet
A dating profile is a mysterious thing. Mostly an outline, like a tracing of the real thing, it is often vague and always partial. Occasionally, though, it acts like a projective test, the profiler unwittingly revealing a lot more than he imagines.
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As I wake up next to Rashad. Or is it Raveen?
To meet or not to meet, that is the question. Or at least that’s the question I ask my fellow internet daters. The advice given on a lot of sites suggests you don’t give out your phone number immediately. They encourage you to get to know someone and to meet in a neutral place on the first date.
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Hard-ons and log-ons
Oh and all the second guessing that goes with this! What did I say about myself that could possibly be putting people off? Maybe they just don’t know quality when it slaps them in the face. Would a studio photograph help? Perhaps I should just tweak my profile.
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The games some gay men play
Three recent internet dating experiences have really got me thinking about how some gay men really like to play games (and I don’t mean the tie me up kind).
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The face to face meeting and how to do it with dignity
My good friend Simon, the one who has received the Order of the Honey Badger from the President for dedication to internet dating, was chatting to me recently about some of his experiences and it occurred to us that there were some real no nos around meeting a date face to face.
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Sexual baggage
Are you honest about the number of men you’ve had sex with? A recent article in Attitude magazine got me thinking about how I approach this issue. They interviewed ten men and the number of partners ranged from 12 to 500.....
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Humans with hearts and souls and not just penises and butts
I promised myself when I started this column that I wouldn’t write about race in a direct way; rather that I would allow my stories to talk about race in a natural and flowing way, seeing it as incidental to the larger narrative.
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Why do we sabotage ourselves?
Why do we sabotage ourselves sometimes? You know what I mean - playing down our assets in our profile because we don’t want to “intimidate” men out there, having a mild flirtation with a really nice guy, then backing away from meeting them, or actually meeting someone, really fancying them, and then never contacting them again because “it would probably never have worked anyway”.
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